We’ve all been here before, and chances are, we’ll wind-up in the doghouse again. Here are some ways to get a ladder up and out of the doghouse, and back in good graces with the one that you love:
1. Measure Up.
You’ll know largely by the chill factor you get from your spouse or girlfriend, but generally speaking, screw-ups land you in four depths of hell:
Ankle-Deep – Knee-Deep – Waste-Deep – Over Your Head
Unless you know you’re in over your head, these tips work.
2. Own Up.
It ain’t always easy, but it’s simple. Apologize. (By the way, an apology doesn’t include the word “but.” ) Admit the foul, and that you know it hurt her.
3. Pony Up.
More than flowers, jewelry, spa days…or other gimmes, what works is giving time. Sweat equity, to be specific. Give her a break. There is a direct relationship to domestic duties you do, and the rate of speed you bounce back. The more you do, the faster you recover. So, take the kids. Have them fed, bathed and in bed when she comes home from her away time.
4. And if you’re in Over Your Head, probably the best advice (after you measure up, own up, and pony up), is shut up. Let her talk. Ask her what she wants.
5. Stand Up.
Ask forgiveness. Remember that love is a verb. And repeat number 3.